Why women prefer gay best friends
A new study led by psychology researchers with The University of Texas at Arlington sheds new light on why many heterosexual women develop close friendships with gay men.
The research affirmed that women place more trust in dating advice from a gay male friend than from heterosexual men because gay men have fewer ulterior mating motives. Also, women are more likely to trust and befriend gay men when they are in a highly competitive dating environment, such as a university with more female students than male students, the studies showed.
“This line of research provides novel experimental evidence that there is more to the gay male-straight female friendship than just what we see on TV – certain social psychological processes are, indeed, driving these relationships in real life,” said Eric Russell, the paper’s lead author, a doctoral student, and graduate teaching assistant in the UTA Department of Psychology.
“Eric’s research emphasizes the benefits to straight women of having gay male friends, and it opens the door to a fuller exploration of the positive aspects of gay-straight relationships. He is creative in finding ways to translate his own insights as a gay man into socially relevant and informative research,” said study co-author Dr. William Ickes, a UTA Distinguished Professor of Psychology in the UTA College of Science.
The research, which comprises four separate studies, involved nearly 700 heterosexual female students at a major public university in the southwestern United States.
- The first study demonstrated that the women placed greater trust in a gay man’s advice about a potential mate – but not in their advice about careers – than in the same advice given by heterosexual individuals.
- The second study showed that women perceived a gay man to be more sincere than either a straight male or a straight female in scenarios in which the women were told potentially deceptive information that could lead to competition for a mate or a sexual encounter.
- The third study revealed that the increase in mating competition enhanced the straight women’s trust in a gay man relative to another woman. “It’s riskier to trust other straight women when mating competition is high. Unlike other women, gay men do not undermine women when they are seeking out mating partners. Gay men do not compete for the same men as straight women do,” said study co-author Vivian Ta.
- The fourth study showed that when the women perceived heightened levels of mating competition, they were more open to forming friendships with gay men.
Russell said, “Together, these converging findings supported our central hypothesis, which not only provides a distal explanation for the trust that straight women place in gay men, but it also provides novel insights into previously unidentified contexts that facilitate the formation and strengthening of this unique bond.”
The study, called “Why (and When) Straight Women Trust Gay Men: Ulterior Mating Motives and Female Competition,” appears online in the journal, Archives of Sexual Behavior. Other co-authors are: UTA psychology graduate students Vivian Ta and Meghan Babcock; and David Lewis, assistant professor of psychology at Bilkent University in Ankara, Turkey.
